“Neutrality, a good place to visit, and a strong place to live”
Another way of strengthening your energy, and to stay in knowing and living your purpose, is to get neutral. “By shifting into neutral we get power!”
Neutrality is an example of what is true for us energetically is the opposite of what is commonly believed. For example, when we drive a vehicle, we know to shift out of neutral into “First gear” or “Drive” to go forward with power. The paradox, in relation to our personal energy, is that we need to be neutral to be more powerful!
Why is getting to “neutral” important to how we gain and use our energy?
When we are NOT neutral we are:
- Reacting to people and events and creating drama;
- Feeling upset, worrying, being anxious, depressed;
- Allowing our strong negative emotions, hurt feelings, and fears to control our thoughts and behavior;
- Feeling agitated;
- Judging, and blaming others and ourselves;
- Building irritation, frustration, and anger;
- Using up our energy and getting exhausted from our reactions.
The consequences of not being neutral are that we are:
- Being divisive, creating separation (we/they), and good/bad situations;
- Living in duality vs. unity;
- Building a foundation for, and creating, our symptoms;
- Increasing support & momentum for our symptoms!
And in more extreme cases we may become abusive, violent, addicted, and create battles and wars.
These strong negative emotions and reactions can create and perpetuate our symptoms. Any one of our negative emotions and reactions may have a small impact on us. What happens when you accumulate them over days, weeks, months, or a lifetime?
We have the ability to manifest our symptoms very literally. As exemplified early in this book, when we feel that people or circumstances are a “pain in the neck,” we most likely will experience a pain in our necks! When we feel that the situations we are in are a “pain in the butt,” we most likely will have pain in other locations.
What is happening inside us when we are neutral is the opposite of what is happening when we are not neutral. When we are neutral we stay objective; are better able to understand people and situations; and we are more open minded and balanced. We are unbiased and impartial. We create perfect harmony.
We are not reacting to a person, group, organization, government, or country. We are neutral to what they think, say, or do, or what they do not think, say or do!
A common question is “Does being neutral mean we have no feelings or connection?”
Certainly not. It is quite the opposite—we are more free to feel, to love, to support, and to act with full energy and commitment. We’re centered in our hearts. We’re not holding ourselves back. We are able to connect to our passion instead of to our energy blocks.
The benefits of getting to neutral are that we:
- Eliminate root causes of our symptoms.
- Prevent our symptoms from coming back.
- Prevent the creation of more roots and symptoms.
- Stay in a calm, balanced, and creative place.
- Eliminate over-reaction.
- Increase respect and appreciation of self and others.
- Shift from life-long habits and patterns of negative thoughts
and actions that cause us to be weak to thoughts and
actions that strengthen us.
- Get into a space that most strongly supports us in finding and living our purpose.
Becoming neutral is an important way for us to regain and stay in our natural state of wellness, joy and vitality!
Neutral—a state of mind
Neutral—your ticket to peace
Neutrality, a great place to visit and a better place to live
Get Neutral or ELSE—get symptoms
A client shares her experience of getting to neutral. N.D., New York
“One of the most powerful, freeing techniques I have learned from the Energetic Well Being© work, is the Positive Power of Being Neutral©. I learned this from an on-line teleseminar several months ago.
“Before taking the workshop I was experiencing a constant state of anxiety, and was overcome with anger and rage and felt totally out of control. I hadn’t slept well for months and felt on the edge all the time, expecting the worst. Now I feel I have the tools to change all of that and everything else, and to actually have fun while I do it.
“I use these tools and what I’ve learned from the Energetic Well Being Essentials© course more and more on everyday situations, on more deeply rooted stuff from the past, and my reactions to all of that. It quickly takes me to neutral. I am in awe of the power and simplicity of these teachings. Unhealthy, subconscious energy is released quickly on issues that have plagued me my whole life.
“I am now sleeping well, dealing with my out-of-control feelings, and continuing to make progress. I am experiencing more freedom.
“I love this ‘process’ because it can be playful and imaginative as I exaggerate both sides of the ‘equation’ until they dissolve away. And if there is ‘stuff’ left, I just do it again.”
A need we human beings have for being neutral is further illustrated by a story about Sri Nisargadatta Maharaj. He was a common tobacco shop owner in India. He met a Spiritual Master and then became one. People came in increasing numbers to ask questions and find guidance for improving their lives. He built a second floor on his tobacco shop in order to have a place for receiving those who came and to give them guidance. These question-and-answer sessions were recorded, transcribed, translated, and published in his book “I AM THAT.”
Each chapter in the book is an account of a discussion with a person who came to him. In one account, a person kept asking different questions about the future and apparently was not getting the answers he/she were looking for. Finally the person asked:
“WHAT PART OF THE FUTURE IS REAL AND WHICH IS NOT?”
The answer was:
“THE UNEXPECTED AND THE UNPREDICTABLE IS REAL.”
This is an unexpected revelation because it prompts the question:
“How good are we human beings at dealing with the latter?”
When you look around and observe our reactions the overwhelming evidence would say:
“Not too good—we go into a state of over-reaction!”
When I talk with people about neutral, I find they have different, and often conflicting, definitions and understandings of it. I realized that the definition needs to be consistent with what supports us in being in our natural state of wellness, vitality, peace, and harmony.
One of the first definitions I thought of was that neutral is “being totally detached from everything.” Then I thought, “Well this is not going to work for me since I am very attached to my wife (of now sixty years), and I love and support her.” This led to another realization that it is even more important to be neutral when we are very attached to a person, belief, understanding, or situation.
To help define what neutral is in the EWB Process©, consider the following energetic definitions based on a dictionary and thesaurus:
Dispassionate—not influenced by emotional or personal involvement
Passionate—having, showing, or expressing an intense belief or desire for something
Balanced—emotional and mental steadiness
Objective—based on facts, not personal feelings
Open-minded—receptive to ideas or arguments
Attached—emotionally connected to something or someone
Detached—not connected to something or someone and not influenced by emotion
Unbiased—belief that no people, ideas, etc., are better than others
Being neutral is not reacting to anything that you, another person, a group, an organization, a government, or a country, thinks, says, does, or doesn’t think, say, do.
Free to feel anything in any situation—even reacting to, or not being neutral to that situation. Feel whatever it is and clear it to neutral in three seconds (or longer if it doesn’t go neutral). Consider this a three second rule to help remember how to get to neutral.
Definitions not applicable to this energetic definition of neutral:
Uninterested—lacking interest to learn about or become involved in something
Middle-of-the-road—course of action that is not extreme and is acceptable by many
On-the-fence—non-committal, hedging your bets
Compromise—an agreement that is OK and not the best for anyone
Apathy—lack of emotion, interest or concern
Noncommittal—not expressing what you think about something
Back to the energetic definitions—remember times in your life when nothing seemed to bother you, when you were feeling calm and peaceful, and when you were observing things going on around you without being bothered about them, if only for a short period of time. What happened to get you into that place? What did you do? How did you shift your thinking?
Sometimes, such a shift seems to happen:
- From just having a great night of sleep.
- When everything seems to be “going my way.”
- Because I think of myself as an “up” person.
- When I’m feeling especially “close” to my significant other, spouse, family, or friends.
- When I’m enjoying or getting satisfaction from what I am doing.
- Because I decide I’m not going to let things “get me down.”
All these times are great! Many times they don’t seem to last. Why? Well on average we adults still are going strong to only about twenty percent of our lives.
We can increase that percentage by learning to get to neutral more and more frequently.
Sounds great, but where do you start? The previous chapter explains the importance of being more aware of when your energy is going strong or weak. When your energy is going weak to something, or to some situation, it is a good place to start when something is bothering you.
Another way of finding where to start is to answer some questions that can help reveal opportunities for going to neutral. For example, you can take a blank piece of paper and generate as many responses as you can think of to the following questions:
- I hate it when…
- I get angry or upset when…
- I am impatient, frustrated, itchy or annoyed when…
- I get down when…
- I judge myself when…
- I judge others when…
- I react when…
- What are the three most important things that you think you are not doing?
What is bothering you the most about not doing them?
By responding to these you create your own customized, specifically designed, tailor—made list of where you can benefit by going to neutral. Your responses also reveal various ways that you are or may be causing your energy to go weak.
The following is a step-by-step approach for going to neutral. The steps are illustrated with an example of an actual situation where a person was very bothered by the words and behaviors of the others in an office in which she worked.
NEUTRAL PROCESS PROTOCOL
- Focus on the person, group, organization, situation, or event.
Example: I am very upset about the people in my office.
- Identify what bothers you about that person, group, organization, situation, or event.
Example: They complain too much.
- Define the worst scenario(s) regarding what bothers you.u
Examples: Negativity is created everywhere in the office.
They are always stuck in the negative.
- Define the best scenario(s) regarding what you want or desire.
Examples: They are enthusiastic about everything
Always stay positive.
Express appreciation in all things
- When you focus on the situation, does anything bother you?
If so, repeat the above steps until you are no longer bothered. This is the key question to ask in order to understand if you have become neutral. If anything about the situation still bothers you, you are still not in neutral.
- If you still are not neutral: Dig deeper.
What else is bothering you about the situation?
“There is a lack of motivation to make things better.”
What bothers you about that?
“It creates a breakdown in productivity.”
What bothers you about that?
“The reason for being ceases to exist.”
What bothers you about that?
- If still not going to neutral:
What bothers you about not being able to get to neutral?
“I don’t want to keep reacting.”
What bothers you about that?
“It is damaging to people/relationships.”
What bothers you about that?
“I get negative, feel hopeless, and lose relationships.”
- Go to neutral for being neutral or not.
- If a two-way neutral: Always calm/peaceful vs. Always reacting
is not helping you get to neutral, go to four-way neutral by taking the phrases from each side of the two-way and getting to the best and worst for both of them:
Always calm/peaceful Never calm/peaceful
Always reacting Never reacting
- Get to neutral by counting the number of layers of blockage or resistance (thousands, billions, trillions, quadrillions, hundreds of quadrillions, or 1010 1020 1030 1040 1050 …). This is often enough to get through to neutral.
Please note that when considering the worst and best scenarios, really go to the worst and to the best. If there is still something bothering you, you have not gone to the worst, and you will still react. So, dig deeper…think of something even worse or something even better. If you don’t get to the best, you will still have lingering expectations that, if not met, will trigger you to react. Getting to the worst of the worst and the best of the best is critical to revealing the ultimate truth and clearing it away.
What is covered in this chapter is normally taught in a one-day workshop, teleseminar, or home study program. The reason for the extra time is that it is a skill—building process. It has taken a lifetime to create our symptoms and reactions. We have our normal ways of dealing with issues, or of not dealing with them very well, which often includes self-sabotage.
Repetition in different, more effective ways of dealing with situations helps sharpen our skills. The information in this chapter is exactly what is in the workshop. There is enough information here so that if this approach resonates with you, then you can get more neutral on your own.
Stand in our own power and speak the truth from our hearts. C.P.
“I recently had the great pleasure of taking EWBP© Workshops with a wonderful, kind, and compassionate man and gifted teacher, LeRoy Malouf. One of the courses that I took was called the Positive Power of Being Neutral©. It truly has created more change in my life than any previous course I’ve taken in a long while.
“The power of being neutral is an incredibly simple technique that creates inner peace, quickly, easily and gently.
“The mind is very powerful and can often be the most powerful limiter of our health and well—being. If we can be in a place of neutral then we can use our mind to enhance our energy, boost our immunity, increase our resistance to disease and help us to achieve longevity.
“Also, coming from a place of neutral allows us to remain intimately connected with others without reacting to what they say or do. It means we can truly stand in our own power and speak the truth from our hearts.
“I remain very grateful to LeRoy for creating and delivering such an important and life altering course.”
Options for Becoming More and More Neutral:
There are many ways to get to neutral. You may resonate more strongly with one or more of them. Any one option may work for you toward becoming neutral at any given time. Having options also helps enhance confidence in dealing with a situation, since another way may work when a particular way does not.
- Neutral Protocol (described above)
- Going to a Neutral “space”
Being strong to Emptiness—Empty space in: your thinking, in the hollow organs in your body, between all vertebrae, around all discs, between layers of skin, in your relationships, and in your universe
- One with the ocean
Imagine you are immersed and any stuck place in your thinking, beliefs, or body, are like salt. Let the salt dissolve—let your whole body dissolve—you are one with the ocean
- Ho’oponopono—A wonderful approach to loving yourself at a deep level. When something someone else is doing or saying is bothering you, find out when in your life you did the same thing, and then express love to yourself by expressing to, and feeling in, yourself, “I’m sorry, please forgive me, thank you, I love you” (meaning you). See Appendix 2 for a more detailed description.
- Ask yourself “Do I want to create this/that drama?”
Shift your thinking away—walk away—don’t bury it—shift
- Meditation—there are many approaches
Dr. Herbert Benson analyzed the patterns and created a universal meditation process—you can feel physical impact in about six weeks, described in his book, “The Relaxation Response,” mentioned in chapter two
- Give thanks as though the desired situation already exists
- Be comfortable not knowing while searching
- Read and listen to “Getting Into The Vortex,” by Esther and Jerry Hicks: http://www.abraham-hicks.com/
- Check our videos and about books Quantum Entrainment: http://www.kinslowsystem.com/
- Check out Heartmath—Coherence Coach: http://www.heartmath.com/
- Expand out…Allowing yourself to be bigger than the problem you are imagining—as big as the room you are in, the house or building, the neighborhood, the city, the state, country, continent, as big as the whole planet, solar system, galaxy, and finally the entire universe
Check in with your body at each step—really feel it—notice any changes in what you see, feel, hear, and imagine—and then expand again
- Create Strength, Joy, and Lightness—Finish off one or more of these sentences:
- I love…
- I feel happy/joyful/wonderful when…
- I feel good about…
- I laugh when…
- I get excited/enthusiastic when…
- I am passionate about…
- I am peaceful/content/calm when…
- I am grateful/thankful/appreciative when…
- I am in awe when…
- I express myself best when…
- I am most creative when…
- I feel most free when…
- I do things easily when…
And another fun way is to follow Steve Bhaerman:
~Swami Beyondananada’s Ten Guidelines for Enlightenment~
- Be a FUNdamentalist—make sure the Fun always comes before the Mental. Realize that life is a situation comedy that will never be canceled. A laugh track has been provided and the reason we are put in the material world is to get more material. Have a good laughsitive twice a day, which will ensure regularhilarity.
- Remember that each of us has been given a special gift just for entering, so you are already a winner!
- The most powerful tool on the planet today is Tell-A-Vision. That’s where I tell a vision to you and you tell a vision to me. That way, if we don’t like the programming we’re getting, we can change the channel.
- Life is like photography—you use the negative to develop. No matter what adversity you face, be reassured: Of course God loves you—He’s just not ready to make a commitment.
- It is true: As we go through life thinking heavy thoughts, thought particles tend to get caught between the ears and cause a condition called “truth decay”. Be sure to use mental floss twice a day, and when you’re tempted to practice “tantrum yoga,” remember what we teach in the Swami’s Absurdiveness Training Class: DON’T GET EVEN, GET ODD.
- If we want world peace, we must let go of our attachments and truly live like nomads. That’s where I no mad at you and you no mad at me. That way, there’ll surely be nomadness on the planet. Peace begins with each of us. A little peace here, a little peace there, and pretty soon all the peaces will fit together to make one big peace everywhere.
- I know great earth changes have been predicted for the future, so if you’re looking to avoid earthquakes my advice is simple: When you find a fault don’t dwell on it.
- There’s no need to change the world. All we have to do is toilet train the world and we’ll never have to change it again.
- If you’re looking for the key to the universe, I’ve got some good news and some bad news. The bad news: There is no key to the universe. The good news: It was never locked.
- Finally, everything I’ve told you is channeled. That way, if you don’t like it, it’s not my fault. But remember: Enlightenment is not a bureaucracy, so you don’t have to go through channels.
© Copyright 2001 by Steve Bhaerman. All rights reserved. Used with permission.
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Neutral is a place of confidence, relaxation, power, lightness, and purpose that serves you well in any situation!
- Maharaj, Sri Nisargadatta, translated by Maurice Frydman. I Am That. Bombay: Chetana Publishing, 1973. Print. ↵
- “Dispassionate, Passionate, Balance, Objective, Open-minded, Attached, Detached, Unbiased.” Merriam-Webster.com. Merriam-Webster, 2013. Web. <http://www.merriam-webster.com/> ↵
- “Uninterested, Middle-of-the-Road, On the Fence, Compromise, Apathy, Noncommittal.” Merriam-Webster.com. Merriam-Webster, 2013. Web. <http://www.merriam-webster.com/> ↵
- Vitale, Joe and Ihaleakala Hew Len. Zero Limits: The Secret Hawaiian System for Wealth, Health, Peace, and More. Hoboken, NJ: John Wiley & Sons, Inc., 2008. Print ↵
- Benson, Herbert and Miriam Klipper. The Relaxation Response. New York: Harper Collins Publishers, 2000. Print. ↵
- Hicks, Ester and Jerry. Getting Into the Vortex: Guided Meditations CD and User Guide. New York: Hay House, 2010. Print & Cd Audio. ↵
- Kinslow, Frank. Kinslow System & Quantum Entrainment. Lucid Sea, Inc., 2013. Web. <http://www.kinslowsystem.com> ↵
- HeartMath: A Change of Heart Changes Everything. HeartMath, LLC, 2013. Web. <http://www.heartmath.com> ↵
- Bhaerman, Steve (a.k.a. Swami Beyonananada). Wake-Up Laughing. Wake-Up Laughing Productions, 2013. Web. <http://www.wakuplaughing.com> ↵